Welcome to Friday my lovelies!

What is “Be-Good-to-Me-Friday”? WHY “Be-Good-to-Me_Friday”?

It’s certainly NOT because I’m ONLY good to “me” on Fridays. Trust AND believe.

I used to send a motivational email to some friends/coworkers weekly and every Friday, I’d close it with something like “Find some time to be good to YOU this weekend”. We get so caught up in doing what we need to do for our families, our jobs, our friends, etc. Some of us give until we’re tapped out. When push comes to shove, we push OUR needs aside and ride to someone else’s rescue. We shove what OUR wants aside to keep the peace.

(Let’s add THAT to the 2008 Moratorium list too. That whole thing about putting ourselves last, not treating ourselves as a priority.)

Years ago, someone I was dating called me selfish. “WE” hadn’t made any plans for the evening BUT “I” had made plans…with myself, to give myself some much needed “quality” time. Dude told me I didn’t know how to be in a relationship. LOL While that might have been true, it certainly wasn’t for the reason HE cited. For me, the BEST way to be in a relationship is to know what you need and go about getting those needs met in a honest, straightforward manner. That includes knowing when you need “ME” time and claiming it - without explanation or apology.

With all the things we have going on in our lives, it can be easy to get caught up in “movement”. The “doing” of some thing. Which doesn’t always equate to making strides, getting somewhere…progress. “Moving” doesn’t always equate to progress. Just ask a rocking horse. (*giggle*) Sometimes the best way to move forward is simply to stop. To be still. To rest. To recharge. Refill your cup.

You can’t give from an empty well.

So today, I’m taking some time off. Taking time to honor me. Why? Cause I kept working at “it” - at life, at being better, at being open, at being honest…at being me. Cause I didn’t let the nonsense knock me off my square. Cause I didn’t struggle with or against any thing that happened my way – work, the back pain, the plumbing issue, the “minor” gas leak, the personal drama, etc. None of it. Cause when I look back over the past week, I’m farther along that I was at the start of the week.

You don’t need a rearview mirror if you’re not moving.

Progress - positive, forward moving progress.

It’s been an interesting week. Things pretty much came at me the same way they did before (chaotic AND crazy) but this time, I showed up differently. That was the key. And that is the thing that has me excited, encouraged and most importantly, empowered to repeat the process.

So this weekend, I’m holding myself open. Open to whatever possibilities come my way. Open to what Life brings and more importantly, HOW Life brings it. Holding myself in a space that Life will read as open, accepting, and maybe even vulnerable. The vulnerable part is my challenge.

It’s not easy to hold yourself in a space that leaves you feeling “open”, “exposed”, “vulnerable” but sometimes that’s exactly what Life expects of us, what Life NEEDS us to do. Life – the one that I’m destined to lead – is worth it. And so am I. So are you. We just have to get past ourselves.

The day is in high gear. Things are…things. But it’s all good.

I’m sitting outside the fray, above the chaos. Because even in the midst of madness, life still tastes sweet. Actually, life “TASTES LIKE SOME MORE”.

Slow down long enough this weekend to at least check in with yourself. Feed YOUR soul. Refill the cup. Find ways to nurture YOU. Honor the person you are. Make room for the person you’re becoming.

Enjoy!
*~* MsJayy *~*