Comments on: CRISIS AVERTED…. http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/ SOULFULL SOLILOQUIES...SOUL DEEP, SPIRIT WIDE Tue, 02 Dec 2008 17:45:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: admin http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2101 admin Wed, 07 Nov 2007 11:54:52 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2101 Princess Dom - thanks. You know I LOOOOVE quotes. Princess Dom - thanks. You know I LOOOOVE quotes.

]]> By: admin http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2100 admin Wed, 07 Nov 2007 11:54:19 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2100 Thanks Kayla. Just trying to quiet those voices in my head. :O) Thanks Kayla. Just trying to quiet those voices in my head. :O)

]]> By: princessdominique http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2099 princessdominique Wed, 07 Nov 2007 10:09:12 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2099 I love your quotes and this whole post. Shelia is right, timing is everything. God knows what we need. I love your quotes and this whole post. Shelia is right, timing is everything. God knows what we need.

]]> By: Kayla http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2096 Kayla Wed, 07 Nov 2007 05:15:46 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2096 Only you can put into words what so many feel. Only you can put into words what so many feel.

]]> By: admin http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2091 admin Wed, 07 Nov 2007 03:31:56 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2091 You too Shelia? LOL Maybe we need to find a support group - there's gotta be one! You too Shelia? LOL Maybe we need to find a support group - there’s gotta be one!

]]> By: Shelia http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2090 Shelia Wed, 07 Nov 2007 02:18:10 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2090 Jackie, this post is right on time for me...thanks From a recovering drama queen :) Jackie, this post is right on time for me…thanks

From a recovering drama queen :)

]]> By: admin http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2088 admin Tue, 06 Nov 2007 21:52:07 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2088 This is like having a conversation with myself. LOL Ok, by "egotism" do you mean that rush you get for finally telling somone off? That feeling you have in the moment you're letting it all "hang out"? That's something you have to grow out of also. It generally doesn't last long - you end up feeling bad for how you handled the istuation, even when what you said was true - you regret HOW you said it (or if you're like me, you realize AFTER the fact that it really was you or at least you had a role in it). Part of it is knowing what triggers you to get to that place & catching yourself before you go too deep into it. Knowing my triggers help me set up clear boundaries for other people. It helps too to be clear about what's really bothering you (sometimes we say it's X when it's really Y) and to be clear about what expectations you have for how the other person responds. You can't control that so you have to keep your expectations in check - expect to say what you need to, to be heard and anything else will be a bonus. And most importantly, I had to learn that as much as I like being right, I'd much rather be loved, be understood, be heard It'll happen. Trust me. This is like having a conversation with myself. LOL

Ok, by “egotism” do you mean that rush you get for finally telling somone off? That feeling you have in the moment you’re letting it all “hang out”?

That’s something you have to grow out of also. It generally doesn’t last long - you end up feeling bad for how you handled the istuation, even when what you said was true - you regret HOW you said it (or if you’re like me, you realize AFTER the fact that it really was you or at least you had a role in it).

Part of it is knowing what triggers you to get to that place & catching yourself before you go too deep into it. Knowing my triggers help me set up clear boundaries for other people.

It helps too to be clear about what’s really bothering you (sometimes we say it’s X when it’s really Y) and to be clear about what expectations you have for how the other person responds. You can’t control that so you have to keep your expectations in check - expect to say what you need to, to be heard and anything else will be a bonus.

And most importantly, I had to learn that as much as I like being right, I’d much rather be loved, be understood, be heard

It’ll happen. Trust me.

]]> By: unknowndiva http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2087 unknowndiva Tue, 06 Nov 2007 20:30:29 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2087 But how do I get over the egotism that goes along with telling people how I really feel about the situation? I think that even if I wrote a million letters, it still wouldn't give me the realease of either venting to my friends or tellin the person off who I feel offended me??? But how do I get over the egotism that goes along with telling people how I really feel about the situation? I think that even if I wrote a million letters, it still wouldn’t give me the realease of either venting to my friends or tellin the person off who I feel offended me???

]]> By: admin http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2086 admin Tue, 06 Nov 2007 17:21:35 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2086 LOL - letterwriting was one of my healing mechanisms back in the day. I'd write it all out, seal it, and then stick it in a drawer. LOL Just know that it's possible to get over that drama queen phase. Hugs! LOL - letterwriting was one of my healing mechanisms back in the day. I’d write it all out, seal it, and then stick it in a drawer. LOL

Just know that it’s possible to get over that drama queen phase.

Hugs!

]]> By: unknowndiva http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2084 unknowndiva Tue, 06 Nov 2007 16:00:29 +0000 http://jackieyoungwrites.com/2007/11/06/crisis-averted/#comment-2084 I swear if this post don't sound like a letter I should be writing to someone today, I don't know what is.....Thank you Sis for your gift of words and for (whether you knew it or not)explaining to me what it is that I am actually going through because I am STILL a drama queen trying to get over this crisis and, YES, it is only temporary. Again...THANK YOU!!! Love, UKD I swear if this post don’t sound like a letter I should be writing to someone today, I don’t know what is…..Thank you Sis for your gift of words and for (whether you knew it or not)explaining to me what it is that I am actually going through because I am STILL a drama queen trying to get over this crisis and, YES, it is only temporary. Again…THANK YOU!!!
Love, UKD

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