You know, there’s a lot of dating/relationship information out in the universe. Seriously. And honestly? A lot of it is BAD. Really, really BAD. Some of it is silly, bordering on stupid. Some of it is so very obviously bad. Some of it isn’t as obvious. Nope, I’m not a ‘relationship expert’ but do I need to be in this case? Judge for yourself as we delve into what I think is “bad” advice.

It was related to INDIFFERENCE. Specifically, how indifference can help a guy attract women. For example, a guy is in a bar having a drink with his friends. A woman walks up and wants to have a drink so he asks if she’s buying. Shocked, she says no so he goes back to talking/drinking with his friends – no skin off his nose, he simply strategically ignores her. A few minutes later, she’s tapping him on his shoulder offering to buy him the drink after all and sputtering on about how she’s never done this kind of thing before. (NOTE: while this could be construed as a case of no skin off his nose for real, the article specifically set it up as a situation where Dude was feigning indifference.)

According to this article, allegedly, indifference on his part exudes confidence, gives the impression that he is the prize and is being sought after.

Um. Ok. Is it his “indifference” that has her tapping him on the shoulder or is it her “desperation”? Now, depending on what he’s really looking for, it may not make a difference to him.

Personally, I don’t think indifference attracts women. Not a woman of any substance, not one who knows who she is and isn’t caught up in all the statistics she hears about women and marriage. Specifically? It doesn’t attract me. Indifference to me translates to a lack of interest and possibly a lack of respect. And why in the world would I want to deal with that for however short the time period might be? Naw. It doesn’t work for me. There are times when this so-called indifference is more cockiness or arrogance than confidence. Arrogance isn’t attractive to me. At all. Confidence? Now that’s something else. It’s like a really good smelling cologne – days later you’re still thinking about it, still recalling it.

Maybe I’m overly cautious (translation: hella suspicious) but I’d be leery of someone who finds indifference attractive. Basically, I’m treating you as if I could care less that you’re around, that I don’t think you’re worth my time or energy but yet, you keep showing up. See, all kinds of alarms would be going off in my head. For real.

Indifference on his part breeds indifference and “NEXT!” on my part. It may attract a “female” but it doesn’t do anything to attract a grown a** woman. And that part about indifference giving the impression that he’s the prize? Um, to me it reads as “he thinks he’s the shyt and can’t be bothered.” See, if he KNOWS he’s a prize, that he’s worth her time, he wouldn’t need to play these games.

This might be truly laughable if it weren’t for the fact that generally speaking, women are *accused* of playing these little games. It might also be laughable if it wasn’t for the fact that somebody out there is truly buying into this - men and women.

You know what’s the saddest part of all of this? The fact that people play these games all while they shout all loud and in a crowd about how they’re “keeping it real” and “looking for something real”. Oh well, play on Playa/Playette…play on.

(NOTE: My little musing could very well apply to women; it’s written from this slant based on the original article.)